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A Pensive Post

Is there ever a time when things aren't rushed, when a thousand different tasks, commitments, projects, and such aren't clamoring for our attention?  I mean, yeah, okay -- vacation.  But I'm not sure that counts.  This isn't even a particularly crazed time, but it feels like I've got too many things to do and not enough hours in the day.

Does reaching middle age mean that carefree is a relic of our past?  Or was carefree an illusion born of ignorance?  It seems sometimes that life careens from one crisis to another -- work, health, family, kids, back to work, once more to family.  I find myself longing for "normal," only to realize that I wouldn't know "normal" if it walked up to me and smacked me in the forehead.  Maybe "normal" is an illusion, too.

Not an especially uplifting post, I know.  And I apologize for that.  But I felt that I wanted to post -- I'm trying to post more often this year, and so far am doing a not-so-good-job of it -- and this is what was on my mind.

My mood?  Not sad, but definitely pensive.

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sartorias
Jan. 20th, 2011 01:25 am (UTC)
Welcome to middle age! (Hope you do get moments of laughter--that's what preserves the sanity.)
davidbcoe
Jan. 20th, 2011 01:38 am (UTC)
Thanks, Sherwood. Yes, my wife and I do a lot of laughing, often at the expense of our children, who will understand in, oh, 25 years or so.
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davidbcoe
Jan. 20th, 2011 02:32 am (UTC)
Exactly -- nothing earth-shattering. Just the stuff that wears on you. Thanks for the comment.
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davidbcoe
Jan. 21st, 2011 01:35 am (UTC)
Thanks, Alis. Just made my reservations for San Diego. You'll be there, right?
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davidbcoe
Jan. 21st, 2011 02:50 am (UTC)
Excellent! I remember meeting your daughter and thinking she was every bit as cool as her Mom!
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davidbcoe
Jan. 21st, 2011 02:56 am (UTC)
Well, okay. I was trying to be nice. But you're right: she is.
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davidbcoe
Jan. 21st, 2011 04:44 am (UTC)
Well, for me it was a foregone conclusion. But yes, you're right.
catsparx
Jan. 20th, 2011 05:07 am (UTC)
I don't recall 'carefree' but how well I remember 'too stoopid to work out what was actually going on'
davidbcoe
Jan. 21st, 2011 01:36 am (UTC)
Actually, that fits me to the letter. Then and now....
arhyalon
Jan. 20th, 2011 01:14 pm (UTC)
I think we have times like you describe...but we have glorious times, too. Times filled with wonder and joy...even the small wonders and joys that comes from loving our families.

That makes it all worthwhile.
davidbcoe
Jan. 21st, 2011 01:37 am (UTC)
Absolutely, Jagi. I have those times, too, and I do my best to recognize and appreciate them. Yesterday was filled with other stuff.
arhyalon
Jan. 21st, 2011 02:27 am (UTC)
Yeah. I have days like that, too. ;-)
sleigh
Jan. 20th, 2011 03:05 pm (UTC)
Carefree? Totally an illusion and chimera. Ain't no such thing in real life.
davidbcoe
Jan. 21st, 2011 01:37 am (UTC)
I'm afraid I have to agree.
markwise
Jan. 20th, 2011 03:47 pm (UTC)
I think as a child, "carefree" was the norm. Whereas when you are an adult, you have to make an effort to be "carefree". It is still possible, you just have to choose to be that way.
davidbcoe
Jan. 21st, 2011 01:38 am (UTC)
I can focus on the other stuff, I can do my best to keep the cares on the back burner for a while. But for me at least, I have to agree with Steve above.
estellye
Jan. 20th, 2011 06:24 pm (UTC)
I think our personal busy-ness is less a result of our adult responsibilities than it is a cultural phenomenon. Every added technology gives us the ability to do more faster - and now, more simultaneously. The more we can do, the more we are expected to do (I say as I eat lunch, print collateral sales materials and check LJ at the same time).

I really think it's important to create islands of peace in each day. They really have to be scheduled in like an appointment, lol. I'm trying to meditate at least for a few minutes. It does seem to take the frantic out of things a bit.

davidbcoe
Jan. 21st, 2011 01:40 am (UTC)
I like the idea of finding peaceful time and pushing the other stuff awhile, even briefly. But I look back on my parents, and I think that they had many of the same concerns, even without the technology. Life, I think, is like water. It fills all the empty space.
hedwig_snowy
Jan. 21st, 2011 12:13 am (UTC)
Maybe just a longer than usual cyclic busy time? And perhaps the things that are popping up currently seem more like busy work and less enjoyable and thus more stressful?

"I wouldn't know "normal" if it walked up to me and smacked me in the forehead."

And you'd probably be bored as hell if it did... :)
davidbcoe
Jan. 21st, 2011 01:41 am (UTC)
I think you're probably right about the "normal" thing. But this time is fairly typical, I believe. It's just life.
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